Stepping In to Space for Healing and a Changed Perspective Through Cancer, Chemo, Surgery and Recovery with Maren Wasner
In this episode, Kara is stepping in with her client who recently reclaimed life through her second triumphant round with cancer. They explore strength, mental health and Maren’s transition from operating as a tightly wound twine to relaxing, letting go and allowing life to happen. It became obvious in her journey that she needed space to heal all aspects of her being. Once she created the space, she could see that parts of her life were no longer serving her and she knew she had to make changes that aligned to her highest self.
Listen in for multiple extremely relatable conversations that took Maren from living in autopilot to conscious choosing in her life.
Highlights:
Unspoken dynamics of care taking and being cared for within relationships
Letting go of responsibility to make everyone comfortable with the fact that you have this hard thing.
Laying down her own expectations for normal performance during chemo. Struggling with coming off as weak or unable. Feeling guilty for needing to do nothing in order to heal.
The experience of taking forced space
The importance of surrounding yourself with people who allow you to share and are capable of listening.
Anger is an emotion and it is trying to tell you something
Being comfortable with who you are is super important and not needing to be comfortable with OTHER people’s idea of who you are may be more important.
Support others by taking on their mental load (“what can I do for you?” VS. make the choice, do the thing.
Allow yourself to receive which opens the pathway for someone else to truly give.
Redefining terms… what is successful? Productivity vs. relaxing (whose expectations am I really trying to meet anyway?)
Quotes:
S “I’m not happy every day. I’m grateful every day. Release the idea that happy every day is the goal.”
“Cancer was here to show me some of these things that I had to work through in order to be my best self.”
“Don’t get me wrong, cancer is a physical thing… but it is a mind game as well.”
Connect with Maren:
Maren Wasner is on a new path since having recently journeyed through cancer (for the second time), as well as a major career shift and divorce. She’s not out of the medical weeds yet, but is working through how to remain present and work through tough emotions throughout the process. She remains open to all that life brings and wants to trust the unfolding, while learning that it takes time, effort, and constant reminders. Enter Kara… <3