Stepping In to confusion, loneliness, and feeling replaced through reflection on her parent’s divorce with Nedy Valdivia
In this episode, Kara steps in with inspirational pop artist, songwriter and founder of “The Friends Forever Club”, Nedy Valdivia. The two unpack how her parent’s divorce affected her as a child and has affected her throughout life as various experiences have compounded the wounds of confusion, abandonment and feeling replaced. They share a vulnerable and deeply healing conversation where Nedy taps into the eight-year-old part of her and gives her a voice.
If you went through the divorce of your own parents or are a parent navigating divorce with children, you are not going to want to miss this episode!
Highlights:
Going from being daddy's girl to feeling very replaced, like an outsider. My dad replaced us with his wife and two younger siblings. There wasn’t really a place for me in their home.
“We were the visitors.” That affected me more than I realized.
As a kid you have a lot of emotions but you don’t have words. It’s a lot of confusion and loneliness. As a kid you don’t really know how to talk about it.
The 8-year-old part of Nedy who felt her first heartbreak, has shown up throughout her life as a desperate feeling for love, subconscious fear she was never good enough and a fear of rejection and abandonment.Different circumstances come up over and over in your life that deepen those first wounds.
We all wear different glasses, we all have different perceptions.
Many years later it's still how things are. “It's just a matter of acceptance.”
My expectations of my father became little to nothing. The lower your expectations are, the harder it is to be disappointed.
Pain gave me a passion to live life to its fullest. It’s made me a warrior.
What we go through is so influential, It affects who we become, what do and what we're passionate about.
It’s powerful medicine to be the person that you eight-year-old self needed.
Quotes:
“I experienced my first heartbreak when I was eight years old.”
“I would have liked to have been more included.”
“There was them and there was us. It still hurts so much.”
“I just want to be loved. Fought for. Pursued. Like when it’s not easy.”
“You went through that pain for this amount of time. Our pain continued for the rest of our lives.”
“I believe that bullying is hatred.”
“Part of you wishes you never went through that pain. But then you see the beauty that comes from it and then you're like, wow.”
Connect with Nedy:
Website: https://officialnedy.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialnedy
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There have always been those whose hearts dance to the beat of a different drum, those who see the world in a different way, and those who find our differences far more beautiful than our similarities. NEDY is one of those people. Armed with an enchanting spirit and a musical talent that is nothing short of stunning, NEDY is an inspirational pop artist poised to lead her loyal fandom into a brighter future. Her new single “Made to Be” now serves as the cornerstone to a new chapter in her career, in which her artistic soul never again tries to mold into someone else’s expectations. THIS is the music that NEDY has waited a lifetime to create.